The Waves Counselling Project in Cornwall

I contacted the Waves Counselling Project in Cornwall in 2021 for therapy after suffering with my mental health. 

The WAVES Counselling Project is an award-winning confidential counselling and outreach service provided by specialist trained counsellors.

They provide specialist trained counselling in Cornwall to those who have experienced abuse or domestic violence, regardless of gender, sexuality, age or income.

After signing up with the programme last year, I was finally allocated a counsellor at the end of 2021. 

You can either refer yourself or refer someone you think could also benefit from this service.

Is counselling free?

You are assessed and put on a waiting list that is now slightly less than a year long. You are then offered 12 sessions, and you are asked to pay a small donation from session four upwards, which can be as little as £5 if you aren’t working or are on a low income. 

The donation is discreet, so there is no need to worry about your counsellor or anyone else knowing how much you donated. Counselling is provided countywide via face to face, telephone, and video and is over seven days a week.

Referrals can be made via completing a short form on the website, texting or phoning and leaving a message, sending a message over WhatsApp, or messaging on any social media, including Twitter, Facebook, etc Instagram, and Snapchat.

Who to contact

Jo Stone the position WAVES Manager on 07815136743

E-mail wavescounsellingproject@live.co.uk

Facebook WAVES Counselling Project – Domestic Violence & Abuse’s facebook page

Twitter WAVES Counselling Project – Domestic Violence & Abuse’s twitter page

The devastating struggle for Counselling

Due to the devastating struggle for counselling in Cornwall, I’ve been having counselling with Penhaligan as the community mental health team is non-existent during the pandemic.

The devastating struggle for counselling in Cornwall has become so severe that I have struggled a lot as have many others during the pandemic.

This led me to seek out emergency crisis teams such as Valued Lives and Mind due to no mental health treatments or support available between 2020 and 2021.

I’m now into my third year of having no mental health support from the Community Mental Health Team, so I’ve had counselling off Penhaligon in Cornwall.

December 2018 was my last CAT therapy appointment at Bolitho House in Penzance, but since moving to South East Cornwall, I’ve had one assessment at Trevillis House.

The psychiatrist told me I would have to accept my original diagnosis, even though they feel it’s incorrect. I’ve been on a waiting list for coping strategy therapy since Summer 2019.

I contacted Value Lives, a crisis centre, after Christmas, and they put me in touch with a free service called Penhaligon counselling.

Within a few weeks, a lady contacted me, and I had one session. Unfortunately, she was unable to continue, so I was put back on the list.

After a week, a man contacted me to say he would be happy to give me some sessions via Zoom due to the pandemic face to face.

Penhaligon Counselling offers free or by donation counselling services from Cornwall College students who are training to be counsellors.

During my sessions, I have been looking at some of the exercises in my CBT and DBT.

Two Exercises that have stood out for me are the REST technique when you look at a situation and write it down and evaluate it.

At first, I thought when I’m angry or upset, I don’t see reason, and like many others, I lash out without looking at the bigger picture.

For example, I could be upset because someone hasn’t messaged me back.

Instead of thinking the person no longer likes me, I should be looking at other options, such as the REST technique.

The REST technique described.

The second exercise I looked at was emotions and how they link to behaviours.

If being generous makes you happy and is not met with the correct response, upset and anger come out.

List of Emotions

When contacting the CMHS team at Trevillis House in Liskeard I was told that I hadn’t been contacted by them due to a lack of staff during the pandemic. So as sad as it is I’m not surprised when I read about the rise in suicides in the last year.

Have you or your loved ones ever tried these techniques? Did they work? What strategies work for you? Let us know in the comments below or on our social media pages.

Time to Talk Day 2020!

Time to talk day 2020 logo

Time to Talk Day 2020 isn’t that easy for everyone.

There isn’t any mental health support on the NHS due to lack of funding and family and friends just don’t get your problems and all the NHS can do is put you on a waiting list with support numbers on a letter.

Time to Talk Day 2020 takes place on February 6th.

Every year people are encouraged to talk about their mental health and open up to their family, friends, and professionals, however, mental health teams across the UK are struggling to keep up with the demand for this, and family and friends can’t always deal with their loved-ones issues in today’s busy society.

At the beginning of the year, I received a letter telling me that I have finally been allocated to the local mental health team in my case Trevillis House in Liskeard in Cornwall.

The letter states that I am currently placed on a waiting list and that my mental health will be monitored by phone calls.

The letter was dated January 7th and we are now in February and I’m yet to receive one single phone call.

This is how much help you get. The letter also lists a number of helplines if I need to talk to someone before then.

Time to Talk Day 2020 lack of research and funding

Due to the lack of help available on the NHS, apparently due to funding, despite the fact that Teressa May stated a few years ago that money would be put into funding mental health.

Family and friends can help so much, but they often don’t know how to or what to do or say and they aren’t professionals.

Often those suffering from mental health feel too ashamed or embarrassed to admit how they are feeling to those they are closest to.

Maybe we should actually be using Time to Talk Day 2020 to discuss the lack of research on mental health.

Mental health hasn’t had the funding that Cancer and Heart research and charities have received.

New treatments such as scans on the brain need to be explored.

What are your thoughts?

Please feel free to comment below.

What are you doing for Time to Talk Day 2020?