I’m turning 35 this Sunday, and it doesn’t seem like that long ago since I was celebrating my 21st or my 30th in Washington DC.
Sadly, life has thrown many knives at me, and I’m not in the place I wanted to be when turning 35. In fact, I never intended to make it past 27. 27 was the age where all the great musicians passed away, however, I never became the person I dreamt I would be.
As a child, I always thought that you left school, went to college, Uni and got a job just like that. Then by 25, you would be married with children, a house and a car just like your parents. Unfortunately, life hasn’t been that simple for me!
I’m 35, single, no children, no house, no job and I’ve spent years in and out of work. I’ve decided that I don’t want to work for anyone else again because I don’t want to be a meaningless wage slave only to be treated like dirt and bullied in the workplace. I work for myself and choose the work I do and who I work for and my own hours. Life comes before work!
I don’t want to be tied to a desk for 8 hours a day, five days a week repeating the same old ritual day after day its such a waste. I want to learn, experience and explore new things.
I would also like to travel to places such as Australia (again), I would love to spend more time travelling through Sydney, Melbourne, Queensland, Alice Springs, Adelaide and WA. Travelling across the USA on Route 66 has always been a dream of mine. I’ve also not visited many places in Europe, and I have never been to my Grans home country, Ireland, my Nan’s home country, Hong Kong and I’ve never ventured as far north as Scotland.
I’m single because I have trust issues and I’ve stopped going out as much as I used to. In fact, I have no plans for my birthday and no one to celebrate or commiserate with. There were times when my idea of a night out was all-nighters, now I would settle for a quiet meal out and a few drinks or a takeaway night in with a few karaoke tunes.
I’m off to Exeter on Saturday to spend the day with my mum, dad, sister, brother-in-law and their kids. We are getting a birthday cake which should be fun. We can’t go on my actual birthday (Sunday)because mum works Sundays.
Hopefully, in a few weeks time, my mum, sister and I will finally get to go to the spa day we booked for mum back in December 2016.
I’m spending my 35th birthday on my own. I will probably go to the gym and for a swim and have a few drinks by myself.
I’ve learnt that some people are meant to be alone and that having too many people in your life can cause too much pain than good. Nothing is forever and just because everyone is married with kids or living in a big house with flash cars and a good job doesn’t mean it’s going to last.
I’m slowly making progress, but I’ve still got a long way to go. I have weight to lose, blog, vlog and social media channels to grow and I would love to improve my guitar playing this year.
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